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Spaghetti & Crabs

When I was a kid, our family lived in Bristol and “a river runs through it.”  The mighty Delaware‘s source is a stream in upstate New York. By the time it flows downstream in Hancock, New York, it is a sizable two-forked river that then passes many river towns as it winds down past Philadelphia, before emptying its mouth into the Atlantic at the Delaware Bay.

The English settled in Bristol, following William Penn, who made Bristol a stop as he journeyed in his rowing barge to and from Philadelphia and his farmstead, his upriver Pennsbury Manor. A landfill larger than one can imagine now borders Pennsbury Manor, approved by Tullytown Borough, whose landowners now pay no real estate taxes in their Faustian bargain to approve this affront to history and the environment.

In the 40’s Bristol was primarily an old factory town that was first populated by the aristocratic English, then the immigrant Irish and lastly the immigrant Italians.  The English lived in the Harriman section of town, the Irish surrounded St. Mark’s Parish, and the Italians, St. Anne’s. 

St. Mark Church | Tour Bristol Borough | Historic Tour of Bristol Borough PA

The class boundaries were not well respected by the time I came along, as after marriage, my Dad bought a home on Jackson Street in Harriman with money that was refunded to him by his mother. She had saved his earnings from his labors starting at the age of 14.

I know, what about the spaghetti and crabs.  Here is where that comes in.  My mother’s mother died when she was 5 years old, so she was raised in her paternal grandmother’s home and her father Pat’s (Pasqual) sister Anne’s home.  It was Aunt Annie who first introduced me to the blue claw crab, callinectes sapidus, the” beautiful swimmer”.

Aunt Annie was quite a character. She kept a numbers book for her butcher, Sheik Masandi and a dream book was often on her kitchen table.  Friends would drop off food for her, be it vegetables picked in     Green Lane Farm’s fields, fish that the men caught in Barnegat Bay, or blue claws from crabbing in Seaside.  When a bushel of crabs was dropped off, I was in demand.

Aunt Annie had a way of getting your help with a chore while making you enjoy it.  A perfect example was the way nobody cleaned the tile in her bathroom like my sister Sandy.  In my case I was a perfect choice to shuck crabs.  At age 10 or so, I met the challenge.

Blue Crab | Chesapeake Bay Program

Upon a crab delivery the wooden bushel was placed in Aunt Annie’s breezeway next to the kitchen door.  I would take the crabs out of the basket and they would hang onto each other in the process.  It was next to impossible to remove them one crab at a time.  Consequently I would be running all over the driveway, rounding up the runaways.  A sneaker-clad foot helped in this process.

One can grab the backside of a crab while it flails away with its claws that can’t reach far enough behind itself to grab the offending hand.  This method was not foolproof, but the “grab from behind” technique is still employed by me today.

The procedure of cleaning a live crab begins with grabbing the crab from behind and breaking a claw; the claw just needs to be injured, not torn off.  The crab, sensing that an enemy has partially disarmed him, ejects the claw so it is better able to flee its tormentor.  Then proceed to the second claw with the same result.  The disarmed crab may then be flipped over where the carapace is removed by prying up the flap, thrusting a thumb or knife between the upper shell and the body, and tearing off the shell.  The crab is then cleaned of its lungs and dried a bit. It is now ready for sautéing in olive oil before tomato and spice are added to make the sauce.

CRABS

The crab is cleaned alive because the cook (me) believes that this imparts the best crab flavor to the sauce.  My mother wouldn’t mess with a live crab and if I wasn’t around. She would dump the crabs into a pot of boiling water for a minute, and then proceed to remove the shell and clean the crab.  Some old timers believed that the water-logged crab lost a little flavor with this method.  The compromise is to put the crabs in the freezer to slow them down.  Take them out while they are letargico, but work quickly at your peril as they wake quickly as well.

I have been screwing around with the blue claw for close to 70 years. So here are my techniques on the subject dish. Please note that when making spaghetti and crabs, it says spaghetti.  Linguini is for clams; spaghetti is for crabs, and I don’t know why.

The Basic Recipe:

Clean the crabs by any of the above methods, then sauté them and the claws in olive oil with garlic, a whole peeled onion and red pepper to taste.  I don’t cut up the onion, but cook it whole in the sauce.

As you cook the crabs, the shells turn a bit golden. Be on the generous side with the oil as the crabs are imparting flavor that is carried by the oil.  Cook at a moderate temperature, and then add the tomato, broken by hand, or passata, if you can find it.  Add some basil or parsley if basil is not available.

I generally take most of the crabs out of the sauce early as the cooking makes the crabmeat mushy. Mushy crabmeat doesn’t appeal to me.  Put the crabs back in after the sauce is finished to get the chill off.

I also like steamed crabs and boiled crabs, the later of which I have been doing lately. 

Steamed Crabs:

Simply take out your steamer, put an inch or two of water into a large pot, add crabs a handful at a time and a good bit of seasoning as you layer the crabs. Old Bay or some crab boil works as the salt content firms up the meat as they steam.  When the crabs turn bright red, go another minute or two and that’s it. I like a bottle of beer instead of all water.  Some vinegar in the liquid works as well.  This is Maryland style.

If you don’t have a steamer, improvise.  Some balled up foil in the bottom of the pot will work, or perhaps you have a rack that can fit into the pot.

How to Reheat Steamed Blue Crabs | Cameron's Seafood

Boiled Crabs:

To me this is the best of both worlds as the result is perfectly cooked crabs, as well as great crab gravy for your pasta. You don’t have to choose between good sauce and mushy crabs vs., good crabs and no sauce. Here it is.

Fill a big pot about halfway up with water; add quite a bit of crab boil, a few bay leaves and red wine vinegar.  Bring to a rolling boil and then pour in the live crabs.  Don’t cook more than a dozen at a time. 

Bring the pot back to the boil and cook seven minutes after the second boil.  If you look closely some greenish/whitish spots will appear on the shells.  If you start to overcook, these spots disappear.  Remove the crabs and, when cool enough to handle, tear off the top shells. This makes eating easier and you are ready to spread the newspaper on the table.  I like my crabs cold as the meat sets up better, but either way, they should be juicy and tasty.  May we say succulent?

Don’t discard the shells. The shells form the base for your gravy. If you just want to eat the crabs, the shells can be frozen and used later for the gravy or a crab bisque soup.

Red Sauce:

 Now for the gravy.  Dry the top shells with paper towel and then sauté them in oil with the garlic, pepper and onion, as noted above.  You are just using shells instead of the crab body.  After the shells start to brown add the tomato and basil and simmer partially covered for a good hour of more. The shells impart the flavor so this works well.

Cool the sauce a bit and remove the shells.  This will be a great crab sauce without the crabmeat.  If you are feeling guilty or want to be opulent, throw a can of crabmeat into the sauce after the sauce is fully cooked.  Remember, the canned crab has been pasteurized, and furthermore, it imparts little flavor. Just try making sauce with only a can of crabmeat if you don’t believe me,

So there it is.  Eat your boiled crabs as your first course and follow with your pasta and salad.  The boiled crabs will be moister than the steamed crabs.  They can be stored in the fridge if you want to do everything ahead of time.  Then when guests arrive, pour a glass of wine, turn the water up to boil the pasta and make a salad.

Across the Aisles: St. Ann Church, Bristol – Catholic Philly
Uncle’ Nick’s stone masonry in Bristol, Pennsylvania

Enough on crabs. Did I tell you that Bristol’s churches were segregated? Believe it.  The Anglican was for the blue bloods, St. Mark’s was for the Irish and St. Anne’s was for the Italians.  What’s wrong with that?  It’s understandable that those Micks didn’t want any Wops in St. Marks, and visa versa.

By the way, Aunt Annie’s husband, Uncle Nick, built St. Anne’s, so a Wop builder was acceptable to the congregation. Uncle Nick also built their family’s home with the crab cleaning breezeway.   It was the nicest home owned by an Italian immigrant in the town. 

And by the way, he also built a home for my parents along the Cooper River in Collingswood where my sister, Sandy lives to this day.

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ARR on 9/17/20, in The Age Of The Trump Virus.

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Signs of Life or We saw Brad today

What’s he been up to? I am asking J while washing dishes in the kitchen. I have no idea, he tells me. J. is confounded – but happy. What did he say about where he’s been? I wanted an explanation. He didn’t say, J. tells me. All we know is that Brad is back.

We are discussing our new neighbour, Brad. Given the lockdown since my arrival in Qatar, Brad is one of only two neighbors i have had the pleasure of meeting in our new country. He lives in the complex that includes our flat, and hundreds of others, on a manmade series of islands called The Pearl.

A Qatari family isolates on the corniche at the Pearl, Doha

Brad routinely sits on a wall near the exit of the carpark, gazing at a patch of Arabian seawater or scrutinizing the humanity, dog, bird, and cat life of our distanced community, as we all mill around the block while trying not to interact. We usually see him when we take our dogs for a walk. Sometimes he is strolling casually with his wife on the manicured lawn below the date palms that line our street. We all say hello, keeping an appropriate social and physical distance, like good neighbours in Covid times.

Brad is passerine, and strikingly bald. For a myna bird, his appearance seems unique. I mean he really stands out. It’s not simply as though he was trapped mid-molt; this bird is brilliantly bare from his shoulders up – resplendently plume-free; sporting rosy-pink, wrinkly, featherless skin, like an elderly baby.

Brad and his wife on The Pearl with blonde ornamental tall grass behind them

It seemed obvious and tragic when he disappeared. We had feared the other birds were uncool with Brad’s brazen differentness, his ostentatious attitude and his fluffy wife. On a block where palaces and peacocks and flamboyant trees are de rigor, a bald myna bird hadn’t much of a chance.

Still, we searched for him hopefully on every walk since he went missing, and spoke of him daily – for a while anyway. After some time, we stopped mentioning it. Brad was just another thing to be sad about. Put it on the pile with Will we ever see our parents again in our life time? and Will we hug our friends or children before we die? Annoyed at nature’s predictable cruelty, we stopped looking for Brad, and as i couldn’t pick out his feathery wife among the crowd, i assumed she had moved on. All the mynas seemed common after we lost Brad.

There is an ornamental fountain grass grown in many of the gardens in our neigbourhood. It grows in shades of blonde and blush, burgundy and purple It stands about half my height and lends soft movement to the hot stillness through its windy dance. To touch it is a gentle reconnection to filmy remote dreams and memories of the kindness of longed-for goodnight kisses. You’re apt to pet it more than touch it. The myna birds love its deep, gossamer foliage as much as we do, and we all seem tempted to play with the silly and elegant grass as we glide around the block, not talking or coming too close to each other.

J. hurried into the kitchen Thursday morning to tell me good news – he had seen Brad and his wife, looking well and hanging out under the date palms, as usual. We saw the first circle that evening.

It had been carefully fashioned from burgundy reeds and very deliberately placed on a bush with purple flowers, just beside the pedestrian walkway. I imagined it a signal of a clandestine meeting spot or perhaps a marker for a hidden spare key. How clever. Whatever the meaning, it was something secret – probably between two people – and probably good.

On the last day of Ramadan, we headed out before sundown, timing our walk for mosque-adjacency during the call to prayer. No one can go in to pray, so we thought we would just stand nearby. Afterward, we took a longer-than-usual walk about the ‘hood. That’s when we started seeing more.

By Friday morning, it became sport.

Maybe it was a scavenger hunt, or perhaps a game between old friends, friends who cannot gather under lockdown. Maybe a group of scientists are sending reports to each other with circles made of grass about environmental changes. Perhaps they are critical messages between spies or they could be a way to profess love to others when a virus prevents touching or even seeing another person’s smile.

J. and i tried making our own little grass circles, weaving and shaping to replicate the urban meadow rings. Ours didn’t hold up. It was surprisingly impossible to recreate them.

On that one walk, little wreaths showed up everywhere and we discovered each one with great delight. They rested on flowering bushes, decorated branches of trees, adorned the concrete walking paths. Some were even displayed from thick hedges surrounding palaces.

I have a lot of theories and fantasies about the grass circles. I don’t know if any are true – but the tiny garlands do seem to be a sign of life.

Maybe Brad left some crowns around town for his gorgeous wife.

Or maybe it’s just how Brad and his friends build their nests. Since that Friday walk about, we haven’t seen any more grass circles.

In any case, that Brad is a badass.

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They changed the call to prayer…

The crescent moon came up, so magnificent that friends on multiple continents remarked about its beauty. The advent of this blessed month was announced by the Moon Sighting Committee. It was an auspicious start for Ramadan 2020. The call to prayer echoing from the mosques, which has urged the faithful for 13 centuries to “Come Pray!” now implores followers to “Pray at home!”

In Ramadan’s month-long focus on introspection, charity, and self discipline, 2020 has the world’s population captive and humanity synchronously practicing these principles, while facing our individual and collective fears and vulnerabilities.

I’m always struck by the phrase ‘Shelter in Place’. Growing up during the cold war, i associated a shelter with a response to a chemical or radiological event. Shelter is a powerful word. It may be shelter from the storm, protection from an air raid, a safe place for a refugee, the homeless, destitute, stateless, the outcast, victims of violence, lost or discarded animals. You could also lead a sheltered life, receive shelter from family, friends or strangers, reduce liability in a tax shelter or wait for a bus there. It has an essence of spiritual meaning to “take shelter” or “give shelter” or “seek shelter” or “find shelter” in times of suffering. Shelter offers solace. So sheltering in place requires us to find solace within ourselves.

On May 13th, the anniversary of Our Lady of Fatima’s appearance in Portugal, my amazing Aunt S. sent me a photo of a crimson-red rose she cut from a plant my grandmother Stella planted so many years ago. Stella had planted the roses in honor of the Blessed Mother. Aunt S. says she hasn’t been giving the rose plant much attention, but this year she will give it some food and prune it in honor of her mother. She prays diligently, for all of us, looking out at these roses, each day.

I have a bracelet given to me by my darling D. and Z. They created much of the jewelry i have worn for the past decade. The bracelet reads GAMBLE EVERYTHING FOR LOVE IF YOU’RE A TRUE HUMAN BEING.

Transformation is fucking hard. And usually we have a lot more distractions available. Life is a gamble. A real Hail Mary.

Gamble everything for love,
if you’re a true human being.
If not, leave this gathering.
Half-heartedness doesn’t reach into majesty.
You set out to find God, but then you keep stopping for long periods at mean-spirited roadhouses.
Don’t wait any longer. Dive in the ocean, leave, and let the sea be you.
Silent, absent, walking an empty road, all praise.

–Jalāl ad-Dīn Muḥammad Balkhī 

The Eid Al-Fitr holiday will begin tomorrow in Qatar. It was announced today by the Amiri Diwan, the seat of rule and administrative offices of HH The Amir. Eid Mubarak. Happy Eid!

As a world, we are working our way through the evolution of salutations. I have heard some different new sign-offs of late: to our loved ones, from a TV anchor, from strangers on customer service phone calls. “Stay safe.” “Be safe.” “Hope everyone in your world is staying healthy!” Your world. My World.

Is there a World flag?

If there is, we should fly it.

In 1970, James W. Cadle, a farmer from Homer, Illinois, created his own version of a Flag of Earth.

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Death is near

During a psychedelic moment in Amsterdam, a friend once mirthfully said to me, “Death is near… but not near me.” We were seated, giggling, at an outdoor cafe. I didn’t see Death, but our squad took his word for it.

When death is near, things tend to get profound

When death is near, things tend to get profound – and at times – darkly amusing. Our brains, between waves of panic, find pools of calm where we make connections on kaleidoscopic levels.

My Uncle Frank ( an incredible teacher, coach, family patriarch and documentarian); Kate (my dear friend, fashion entrepreneur and activist, mother of two darling young girls); Little Richard (my first cognizant toddling memory of a tv image). These are just a few who passed away in the recent days of the shitdown, each warranting proper memorializing. We kind of barely spoke of it. It’s untenable when death is so near and we have lost the luxury of mourning losses per our pre-Covid conventions. Our brains and hearts can’t metabolize so much collective and personal loss and trauma all at once. Bodies are piling up in unusual places and services with tears-in-physical-proximity-to-loved-ones are verboten.

Kate Kruger (December 29, 1973 – April 11, 2020) with her girls.
Uncle Frank Greco, family historian. (February 1, 1932 – March 18, 2020)
The legendary Richard Wayne Penniman (December 5, 1932 – May 9, 2020)

Zooming with my Foxhole girls, B said it best. The data is fierce, said B, we are NOT every man for himself. At the same time, we are finding ways to be more self-reliant.

The thought of my absence from my father’s side as he went through chemoradiation would have been unimaginable before The Great Adjustment. He sent a photo of what he calls his Hannibal Lector disguise, the bespoke computer-designed thermoplastic mask that held his head to the table during treatment these past few weeks.

Masks give us quite a lot to unpack, both as a symbol and a tool.

I mean masks give us quite a lot to unpack – both as a symbol and now as a tool. Maybe that’s why masking is so provocative and charged. Images of face coverings stir us emotionally and culturally with ramifications that may be both practical and archetypal.

Where are we on a spectrum, where what was once disturbing and uncomfortable, becomes a lifeline to survival?

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Housework

I’ve taken to ironing the sheets. I recall telling J., back in winter, that we could move to Doha if i could have freshly ironed sheets every day. That’s how spoiled i intended to be.

Well, now i have them. Ain’t if funny how life plays out sometimes.

For the most part, doing the laundry and other housework has become a meditative and comforting activity, helping to shape the amorphous hours and days of the shitdown.

Bilbo loves to help make the bed so he can tunnel in later.

I think about my grandmother and how she even had one of those machines for ironing sheets in her basement laundry room.

She would always put on a “housedress” for her duties of cooking and cleaning and then change into a proper dress later to go out shopping or have dinner – always looking great and put-together in public or when “company” officially came by. The housedress signaled a time for chores, but also signaled an off-duty status; a respite from public presentation. As a child, i equated her housedresses to my “playclothes.”

These designations remind of the loungewear/ activewear everyone is donning in their super-private lives right now, at least from the waist down. My foxhole girls sent me a package of cuddly clothes which are the equivalent of modern-day, luxury housedress for me.

Suiting up in the housedress was also about performing tasks properly, prioritizing household management as a craft, and executing every domestic duty with great pride. I’m usually really into aprons, which are like that as well. Speaking of housework, I discovered this book in 2006, and have referred to it and calmed myself with it so many times through the years. I think it’s available electronically now. H., i think i gave you a copy? M., you can find it in the casita. ❤️

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Back to the housework garb, i grew up watching women doing housework in headscarves and i tend to tie-one-on when it’s time to get to housework. Headscarves have traditionally filled practical purposes – to keep hair out of food, protect from sun, etc. – and to supply that get-to-interior-chores-uniform signal. The older Italian women would tie a “moppine,” the Italian-American lenition of the word for dish towel, on their heads. Our housekeeper P. at my parents house was another role model. Not only did she wear a housedress, but always had a kerchief tied on her head.

The kerchief history for black Americans has been a complicated one. Enslaved black women in the antebellum South were required to wear kerchiefs of acceptable humble fabric not only for practicality, but to designate their inferior status. The reclamation of the headwrap to become a powerful expression of identity has occurred in during my lifetime.

And now, living on the Arabian Peninsula, the importance of headdressing – for both men and women – has become something i’m pondering quite a lot. The headdress has signified both oppression and power, progression and regression, imprisonment and liberation. Maybe more on that later.

But for now … it’s just housework.

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“Let’s go shopping …” Memories from Al

LETS GO SHOPPING

STELLA   ​Albee, can you take me for a few things?

Al  ​​Sure Mom, be right over

Lets go over to Frank’s place first. We go to Guintas, the butcher at 9th and Christian.

I just want to pick up a few things, Me, double-parked or riding around the block and Stell in her glory giving the butcher orders Don’t pd the scaloppini too much; I like mine thicker. Half hour later, She ambles out and Frank puts two bags in the trunk.

Thanks, can we go over to Passayunk, I want some ricotta from Phil.  We go to Phil Mancoso’s for a quick stop, just 3 pds of ricotta, (he makes the best, in his cellar) Phil comes up through the stair, you know.  Ricotta and plat cheese.

OK go down 13th to Ipolito, I want to look at the fish.  Good, now a little further down to Dickinson to Faragellis-not many people know this baker, big crusty hard loaves. She is right, as usual.

How about some pie, go over to Ritner, west of Broad.  Ok I love that bakery, Potittos. Get a custard cream pie for me.  Over we go and she gets a few things.  

We head out, but bingo. Canulli’s pork store is just down the block near the Church, (Jan knows the name), and Canulli’s is irresistible, he makes links.  20 minutes later, he sold her on a rolled pork roast, some chops and 3 pounds of sausage, hot and sweet with seeds.

OK that’s enough, no wait, there is a great deli on Jackson,it’s just around the block.  I can get some good lunchmeat.  Over to I can’t remember the name but it was an Italian married couple who used to import the best stuff, OK Chilionies.  I get to go in. Nice load here, and home we go, but. Quick stop, Lance’s for a hard round loaf

At 220 we carry the bags onto the kitchen table.  We are not through yet. I sit while Stella displays her bounty, opening all the packages for viewing.  I’m the praiser and occasional taster.  Look at this veal, nice and pink.  Taste the ricotta; Phil makes the best.  Cut a little end off the plat cheese while its fresh. She’s an Awful rewrapper.

Oh, I got this supresata from Claudio, that Claude had me laughing, what a great personality.  I love that kid.  (Sad aside, young Claude committed suicide in the ware-houseover a girl, so the story goes and Stella was heart-broken to hear the news as she knew him as a kid growing up in his father Claudio’s store.)

OK you can go.  Take some stuff home, get some sausage and that Taleggio cheese is your favorite.  You can’t get that anywhere, so creamy now on a piece of that Faragelli bread.

Ok mom thanks; I’ll call you later. (Nan’s Albee on steroids) April 9th 2020 @ 1:43 AM